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"Continued to take personal inventory and when wrong promptly
admitted it, while continuing to recognize our progress in dual
|A core principle behind the Tenth
Step is learning to examine our thoughts, feelings, and actions, on
a daily basis. So that we can fix things or set them right as soon
as possible. This frees us to focus on our dual recovery, live in
harmony, and continue to grow on a day by day practical level.
IN OUR OWN WORDS: Members
share their thoughts on the Tenth Step
I know I'm
not perfect. Having Step Ten as part of my daily Program of recovery keeps
me from letting things build up. I've learned it's easier in the long run
to make quick simple amends as soon as they are due. At work, people now
say I'm a caring, thoughtful, polite kind of a guy. That feels a whole lot
better than what they used to call me.
self-aware is what Step Ten is to me. It's like, I never use to see the
good things I did or give myself any credit. In just the same way, I never
use to understand why I'd piss people off. Sometimes I did, but on the
small things I usually didn't even notice. This new lifestyle takes
constant practice. It's not all that natural feeling to me yet, but it's
getting easier all the time.
thing I have a problem with is watching out for my old negative self-talk.
Step Ten gives me an opportunity to do some of my affirmations to help
First thing I ask myself is if
I've followed the three suggestions for dual recovery:
I will be free of alcohol and other intoxicating drugs.
I will follow a healthy plan to manage my emotional or psychiatric
I will practice the Twelve Steps to the best of my ability.
I do that in the morning and
again in the evening. It sounds sort of simplistic maybe, but it keeps me
from forgetting my recovery goals.
of continuing to take a personal inventory is monitoring my symptoms. I
keep a mood log which my psychiatrist gave me. It really helps me to see
little changes so we can deal with them before they turn into a major
flare-up. I also journal a lot. I write down the events of the day, how I
felt about them, what I did to solve problems, and things I may want to
discuss with my sponsor or therapist later.
do my Tenth and Eleventh Steps every evening. It's become almost a ritual.
I sit and close my eyes with the TV and everything off and go over the
events of the day in my mind. I ask myself if there were things I could
have done differently. Did I ruffle anyone's feathers or forget to say a
simple thank you. I also review any situations where I got upset. How did
I handle that. In any case, I want to make sure I'm leaving yesterday
behind me. If I owe anyone a thank you or an apology, I jot it down on a
post-it note and put it on my mirror. That way I'll see it first thing in
the morning and be sure to remember to set things right the very next day.
For a long time I kept my Fourth
Step journal near my bed. I had my Assets and Liabilities listed out and I
could get a sense of how I was changing and what areas may need a little
more effort. One thing I'm practicing now is trying to notice more and
acknowledge the areas were I am growing and doing better. I know it's
mostly God's doings but I can pat myself on the back for doing my part.
I use the
phone a lot. I call my sponsor almost every day and I have a list of DRA
friends both online and by phone I keep in touch with every day. It really
helps to bounce things off these people and listen to what's going on in
their lives. I trust them to give me honest feedback and not just tell me
what they think I want to hear.
Ten is about making a habit of putting out life's little fires before they
get too big.
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the views expressed herein. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism only -
use of the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities that are
patterned after AA, but that address other problems, does not imply otherwise.
THE TENTH STEP OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS* 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
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